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change is the only constant

6 Jun

“step out of your comfort zone”

“do one thing every day that scares you”

“change is the only constant”

If you know me, have read my previous blogs, view my Facebook page, or even have had an in-depth conversation with me, you’ll know that I LOVE QUOTES.  Motivational, inspirational, make-you-think-about-life kind of quotes.  There have been some pretty incredible things said by people who have walked this Earth.  There have been women and men who have summed their life experiences into a few powerful snippets of advice.   And when I hear a snippet that moves me, that rattles my soul, I always save it and write it down.

The 3 quotes that I used to start this post are quotes that I have run into over and over again in life. They have appeared everywhere, time and time again.  At first I wasn’t as captivated by these words as I was with other quotes.  They didn’t strike me as words to live by.  I sort of thought- well why change something if what you’re doing is working?  Why do something SCARY every day?? I’m afraid of spiders, family and friends getting sick, and car accidents.  I want to stay as FAR away from all those things as possible!  How can change be the only constant? Don’t people figure things out and then keep on keepin’ on??   This was my initial reaction to reading these quotes.

As the days of my life journey have unfolded and I have been blessed with more and more experiences and opportunities in life, I found myself going back and thinking about one quote in particular- the one that bothered me the most.  “Do one thing every day that scares you”.  Spoken by the incredible Eleanor Roosevelt, I knew this quote HAD to be powerful, I just wasn’t seeing the power yet.  I tried applying this quote to different instances and occurrences in life, to see if it “fit”.  And then one day, it hit me.  Every time I found success in life, every time I achieved a goal, every time I made another dream come true, it had been immediately preceded by taking a huge risk.  In order to achieve something I hadn’t yet accomplished, I had to go to lengths I never dared to before.  I did something SCARY by taking those risks and delving into uncharted territory.

There was always a significant amount of fear when I did so; fear that I’d fail, fear that I’d be made fun of, fear that it wouldn’t go exactly as I envisioned, fear that it’d go FAR BETTER than I was prepared for.  And no matter what the outcome, I realized I always learned a valuable lesson.  The lesson became power and knowledge to use toward achieving my next goal.  The scariest moments were those that yielded the most powerful results.  I realized that if I had always stayed put, in a place where I knew I could “get by” and be comfortable, I would never be able to follow my passions and achieve true success.  I now embrace the thought of doing something each day that scares me.  But I now realize that it could mean any number of things- small to HUGE.  The main thing is to always keep challenging myself to be better, to progress forward, to meet new goals, and to be as happy as I can in my own skin every day.  Stepping out on a limb, where its scary, is the only place for that to happen.

Take time today to do something that scares you… take that risk, step out of your comfort zone even just a little bit.  Do that thing you’ve been thinking about for a few weeks but have been a bit too fearful to complete.  And then share. I’d love to hear your story.

back in the saddle again

18 May

We’ve all been there- the moment where we realize we’ve fallen off the saddle, out of a routine, and away from healthy habits.  It could happen in any area of life; working out, keeping in touch with friends, visiting family, eating healthy, staying organized, or taking time for ourselves.  We realize this has happened, that a variety of reasons have contributed to its occurrence, and decide to get back on track.  Then a very funny thing happens: we try to pick up right where we left off.  We expect to get right back in the saddle again and not miss a single beat.  More often than not, this is not the case and it creates an immediate sense of disappointment, confusion, discontent, and probably aggravation.

“Well I could run 3 miles a month ago, why am I struggling to make it a half mile now!?”

“My best friend and I used to talk every day and had a weekly lunch date, but these days we can’t seem to find 10 minutes to catch up on our week!”

“I used to be so organized, and now things have become so disheveled that I don’t even know where to begin.”

“I was eating clean, whole, healthy foods and then after that holiday weekend I couldn’t get away from the treats, desserts, and fast food.”

Those thoughts and questions swirl through our heads and before we know it, we have created an air of self-doubt and frustration.  The routine/habit we once found to be a positive source of balance suddenly leaves a taste of resentment in our mouths.  Sometimes, this results in giving up our efforts altogether.

Well, guess what?? Give yourself a break!!!! You can not expect to jump right back into your old routine without an adjustment period.  It will take some time to remember old patterns, habits, and routines; more importantly, it takes time to remember WHY we held those routines close to begin with.  What was the driving force behind the habit?  What made it such a priority over other things in life?  What was missing when this routine was gone from daily life?  What do we hope to regain in life by bringing this habit back? Answering these questions helps us regain the FIRE inside and the flames of commitment, passion, and desire will burn strong again.  This is what will get us through that adjustment period, when things aren’t exactly as we want them to be but are well on their way.  That FIRE will carry us over that hump until our routine/habit/pattern is back and in full effect.

Nobody is perfect. We all fall off the saddle once and a while.  I think its actually a good thing- it forces us to take inventory on the important things in our lives, and the reasons WHY we hold them to be important.  Next time you have a moment where you realize “Wow, I haven’t _________ in so long!”, stop and think about what you’ve lost and gained.  Get that FIRE back and make a promise to yourself that you will work HARD to get back in the saddle again.

the power of 20 minutes

10 May

Saturday was a BUSY day for me. I got up early and headed to work, with my first training at 10am.  After a long busy day of training and holding down the fort at BHAC, I headed home at 7pm.  I was exhausted; I didn’t want to go out, I didn’t want to drink, I didn’t even feel like being around anyone else.  All I could think about on my drive home was how much “stuff” I had to do.  I kindly declined invitations from friends to go out for a drink, knowing my evening needed to be spent at home getting paperwork done, folding laundry, writing programs, planning bootcamps, etc.

When I got home, I thought I should be relieved- I was done with a looong day at work.  But somehow I still felt completely overwhelmed- like I was in overdrive and I couldn’t slow down.  I didn’t know what to do first.  Should I fold laundry, and then do paperwork? Or should I do paperwork first and then if I got around to the laundry I’d fold it then?  Or should I make that dinner I’d been craving all week, and leave the other work til later in the night?  Shower now, or later?  How am I even going to get this all done when I can barely keep my eyes open?!  All of these seemingly benign questions swirled in my head until I nearly had a panic attack.   Thankfully a little light went on inside my head, and I realized the FIRST thing I needed to do was NOTHING.

I put on some music (the new Adele album….a-mazing. I highly suggest it), poured myself a small glass of Pinot Grigio, and sat at my kitchen table with my feet up on a chair (opted against the couch or bed for fear I’d be asleep in no time).   I took small sips of the wine, and sat for a few minutes just listening to the music.  It didn’t take too long for my over-active brain to say “oh, I should grab that Fitness Journal I got in the mail and read it”  or “I should bring my planner over here and see what my week looks like”  or “I should grab my Blackberry and text a few people, or write a few quick emails”.  And I had to consciously tell myself NO.  I forced myself to just leave those things alone for a bit; I needed time to unwind and enjoy each moment.

Slowly, after the first 5 minutes or so, I began to really relax.  My brain started slowing down and was thinking about things other than work.  I had enjoyable thoughts about life, and they had nothing to do with appointments, deadlines, or dates.  I looked over at the clock and decided I would stay in the seat for 20 minutes, just relaxing.

It was amazing.  It was probably the closest I’ve ever come to meditating.  I closed my eyes, put my hands behind my head, and took a few deep breaths.  I listened to Adele’s soulful voice and the powerful sound of her piano.  I let the music really go THROUGH me.  I was as calm and relaxed as I had been in months.  Each minute was more relaxing than the one before.  I realized that when I LET myself be relaxed, it can be quite nice!  That 20 minutes was a lifesaver.  When it was done, I got up from the chair and felt refreshed, and replenished with energy.  I was able to get all the tasks on my list accomplished, AND I even made time to watch the Celtics game.

I am constantly reminding my clients, friends, and family members that Balance is key in life.  Balance of work, play, exercise, sleep, healthy eating, reasonable goals, etc.  If we make the important things a priority and maintain balance, we’ll achieve our goals.  Saturday night was life’s reminder that I need to heed my own advice.  And boy, am I glad I did.  This week’s goal for me is to build that 20 minute session into my schedule BEFORE the stress takes over as much as it had last week.

Has this ever happened to you? What are your ways of de-stressing and relaxing??